Human ATM is a term thrown about but i honestly don't believe such a creature exists for several reasons one of which is that human ATM's are people and people have preferences and limitations so their aren't a machine if they see a Domme they don't like then of course they aren't going to tribute that Domme. Additionally if they tributed everyone that walked along then they would run out of money fairly quickly.
I think the subs that identify as a human ATM often times don't think of it in these terms and try to think of it simply, as another humiliating term to be thrown about. If i ever a actual human ATM i'll be pretty surprised because i often wonder if that's a possible thing. I've met a couple subs over time who did tribute upon first contact i doubt that was because they were a human ATM though but because they were trying to get my attention.
I do find that subs who identify as human ATM's tend to be sluts though, which i love a good slut as long as their honest about being one i find it's easier to not have to take the responsibility for a sub and while ownership is great fun it can be a lot of work so sluts do have their purpose as well. They also aid newer Dommes in getting their confidence sometimes at least from what i've seen. So that's why i don't believe that human ATM's are real.
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Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Too late to turn back
As most people who've read my blogs know or who know me personally know that i've had a hard life that i have had a tough childhood. So i think it'd be cathartic to explain the latest that has unfolded in my life. firstly though, i need to recap some of my history for those who aren't current. my sister is older by 2 1/2 years she was the favored blonde princess i was the tom boy well right after my sister turned 18 on my moms 51st birthday she ran away from home in the middle of the night saying simply "i'm going for a walk" she left with a man she had just met off the internet we didn't see her again for 3 years finding out she had left state. During this period of time she treated my family like crap, fast forward to us rescuing her from that man being abusive she seemed like her again for a while.
Until she tried to get me disowned from my family for being a domme (a fact that my parents already knew so it didn't work) well recently she got into a fight with her fiancee and tried killing herself she was put into a institution and during that period refused contact with her family once she got out she blamed everything wrong in her life on us me in particular so now once again my mother is on the verge of a nervous breakdown and i've been having a emotional time myself. at one point my sister got her fiancees mother to text me and attack me saying it was all my fault that both my sister and my mother had problems claiming i was physically abusive and verbally abusive so i've found my sister is not only making false claims about me behind my back but also having others attack me. The fact that she went around telling others about my rape as a child saying it was traumatic for her when she didn't know for years later she's always been a attention seeker and this just shines the light brighter on that.
I had bought her a gift when she got out of the institution and she blew it off, she texted us repeatedly to let us know she didn't want us in her life until i finally lost it and told her that she could avoid me and hate me all she wanted but her mother gave her life and her fiancee was who she was fighting when she ended up in the institution for saying she couldn't go to college and that she was lower than a dog. So i told her it wasn't right that she push away her mother whom if it wasn't for her she wouldn't have life in the first place again like she did when she was 18. I've decided personally now to cut my sister out of my life after she changed her number after i defended my mother. My father doesn't want to give up and i don't know if my mother CAN give her up but i've decided for my own health that i can no longer have my sister in my life i love her and always will but i cannot protect her anymore mental illness isn't a reason to throw your family in the garbage given everything she was diagnosed with i was and then some.
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Until she tried to get me disowned from my family for being a domme (a fact that my parents already knew so it didn't work) well recently she got into a fight with her fiancee and tried killing herself she was put into a institution and during that period refused contact with her family once she got out she blamed everything wrong in her life on us me in particular so now once again my mother is on the verge of a nervous breakdown and i've been having a emotional time myself. at one point my sister got her fiancees mother to text me and attack me saying it was all my fault that both my sister and my mother had problems claiming i was physically abusive and verbally abusive so i've found my sister is not only making false claims about me behind my back but also having others attack me. The fact that she went around telling others about my rape as a child saying it was traumatic for her when she didn't know for years later she's always been a attention seeker and this just shines the light brighter on that.
I had bought her a gift when she got out of the institution and she blew it off, she texted us repeatedly to let us know she didn't want us in her life until i finally lost it and told her that she could avoid me and hate me all she wanted but her mother gave her life and her fiancee was who she was fighting when she ended up in the institution for saying she couldn't go to college and that she was lower than a dog. So i told her it wasn't right that she push away her mother whom if it wasn't for her she wouldn't have life in the first place again like she did when she was 18. I've decided personally now to cut my sister out of my life after she changed her number after i defended my mother. My father doesn't want to give up and i don't know if my mother CAN give her up but i've decided for my own health that i can no longer have my sister in my life i love her and always will but i cannot protect her anymore mental illness isn't a reason to throw your family in the garbage given everything she was diagnosed with i was and then some.
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Monday, February 25, 2013
A riding lesson with Mistress ColdBloodedDomme
this is a erotica/fantasy story written by my pony bitch collared.
I heard the command from my Mistress Coldblooddedomme and knew not to keep Her waiting. I made my way crawling on all fours to where She stood. Mistress was wearing her black leather boots which came to just below her knees and put an extra 5 or 6 inches on to her height. Her fishnet stockings accentuated Her full powerful thighs. Above Her panties Mistress was wearing a claret coloured corset which showed off her fabulous figure.
In contrast I was naked but for a pair of knee pads and leather wrist bands which offered support for what was about to come.
I stopped next to my Mistress. I felt a bit being pushed into my mouth and reins draping down my back. A sharp pull on the reins made me jerk my head upright.
Mistress then went about placing a saddle on my back with stirrups either side. As She cinched the saddle in place She gave my penis a quick slap. "I hope that little thing is not going to cause any trouble today".
I shook my head.
The next I knew I could feel Mistresses majestic weight as She swung on to the saddle. My back curved a little before a sharp swat from Mistresses crop made me straighten up. I heard the command and commenced my journey round the room. I knew some of Mistresses more powerful ponies could carry Her for 50 laps. Mistress knew I was not strong enough for that yet but did expect 20. I set off at a lively pace. I could hear Mistress saying "good boy" and this made me feel very proud. My penis, normally so small began to grow as I felt Mistresses strong thighs clamping on to my sides.
I recalled the first time I had been used in this way. I had decided to play up and test Mistress out. It was a very short rebellion and one which ended badly for me.
Mistress had taken me down to one side still with Her thighs wrapped around my middle. "You've just made your first and last mistake" I remember her whispering into my ear. "I've broken horses many times stronger than you"! She then proceeded to squeeze the life out of me. "I could break you in two if I wanted. Just be grateful it's not your neck in between my thighs"! The force on my ribs had been inmmense and I was sure something would give as I battled for breath. It had seemed like ages though it was probably no more than a couple on minutes but my Mistress had made her point. That had been my last attempt at being stubborn!
Back to the present I was slowing down after my early progress. My head dropped a couple of times and Mistress pulled sharply on the reins to get me to raise it. I was over the halfway mark but struggling. I stopped. "Come on pony you've got 6 more laps to do!" I felt a couple of swats on my naked bottom as Mistress used the crop. A squeeze from Her thighs and I was off again. My back ached, my legs ached but mostly it was my arms which hurt the most. Two more laps and I crashed forward on to the mat. Again I felt the crop. I was yanked up and Mistress reasserted her positon in the saddle. "I'll have to get you working on the weights to strengthen those puny arms of yours!". As much as I loved the feeling of Mistress riding me I was really struggling to carry Her. The final two laps were painful. Full of stops and starts and what racing stewards would call excesive use of the whip! I could sense saliva dripping from my mouth as I carried my Mistress round the mat for the final time. "Come on boy you're nearly there!" I so wanted to please Her! Despite all the pain and effort my cock was as hard as ever. After I triumphantly carried Mistress accross the line I collapsed in a heap. Mistress remained in the saddle and congratulated me. The combination of pleasing Her and feeling Her beautiful bottom pressing my cock into the mat was too much. I came!
As Mistress dismounted and ordered me to rise the mess I had made on the mat became evident. "I thought I told you to control yourself!" Mistress shouted. As I puffed and panted I looked down at the white puddle and guessed what was coming next.
"I suppose you're thirsty after giving your Mistress a ride". "Well there's something to drink". Mistress gave my bottom a firm hit with the crop and I began to lap up my own mess. I felt Mistresses boot on the back of my neck. "You're going nowhere until it's all disappeared".
I lapped away still exhausted yet proud to have carried my Mistress for so long.
Pain and pleasure. I wouldn't want it any other way!
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I heard the command from my Mistress Coldblooddedomme and knew not to keep Her waiting. I made my way crawling on all fours to where She stood. Mistress was wearing her black leather boots which came to just below her knees and put an extra 5 or 6 inches on to her height. Her fishnet stockings accentuated Her full powerful thighs. Above Her panties Mistress was wearing a claret coloured corset which showed off her fabulous figure.
In contrast I was naked but for a pair of knee pads and leather wrist bands which offered support for what was about to come.
I stopped next to my Mistress. I felt a bit being pushed into my mouth and reins draping down my back. A sharp pull on the reins made me jerk my head upright.
Mistress then went about placing a saddle on my back with stirrups either side. As She cinched the saddle in place She gave my penis a quick slap. "I hope that little thing is not going to cause any trouble today".
I shook my head.
The next I knew I could feel Mistresses majestic weight as She swung on to the saddle. My back curved a little before a sharp swat from Mistresses crop made me straighten up. I heard the command and commenced my journey round the room. I knew some of Mistresses more powerful ponies could carry Her for 50 laps. Mistress knew I was not strong enough for that yet but did expect 20. I set off at a lively pace. I could hear Mistress saying "good boy" and this made me feel very proud. My penis, normally so small began to grow as I felt Mistresses strong thighs clamping on to my sides.
I recalled the first time I had been used in this way. I had decided to play up and test Mistress out. It was a very short rebellion and one which ended badly for me.
Mistress had taken me down to one side still with Her thighs wrapped around my middle. "You've just made your first and last mistake" I remember her whispering into my ear. "I've broken horses many times stronger than you"! She then proceeded to squeeze the life out of me. "I could break you in two if I wanted. Just be grateful it's not your neck in between my thighs"! The force on my ribs had been inmmense and I was sure something would give as I battled for breath. It had seemed like ages though it was probably no more than a couple on minutes but my Mistress had made her point. That had been my last attempt at being stubborn!
Back to the present I was slowing down after my early progress. My head dropped a couple of times and Mistress pulled sharply on the reins to get me to raise it. I was over the halfway mark but struggling. I stopped. "Come on pony you've got 6 more laps to do!" I felt a couple of swats on my naked bottom as Mistress used the crop. A squeeze from Her thighs and I was off again. My back ached, my legs ached but mostly it was my arms which hurt the most. Two more laps and I crashed forward on to the mat. Again I felt the crop. I was yanked up and Mistress reasserted her positon in the saddle. "I'll have to get you working on the weights to strengthen those puny arms of yours!". As much as I loved the feeling of Mistress riding me I was really struggling to carry Her. The final two laps were painful. Full of stops and starts and what racing stewards would call excesive use of the whip! I could sense saliva dripping from my mouth as I carried my Mistress round the mat for the final time. "Come on boy you're nearly there!" I so wanted to please Her! Despite all the pain and effort my cock was as hard as ever. After I triumphantly carried Mistress accross the line I collapsed in a heap. Mistress remained in the saddle and congratulated me. The combination of pleasing Her and feeling Her beautiful bottom pressing my cock into the mat was too much. I came!
As Mistress dismounted and ordered me to rise the mess I had made on the mat became evident. "I thought I told you to control yourself!" Mistress shouted. As I puffed and panted I looked down at the white puddle and guessed what was coming next.
"I suppose you're thirsty after giving your Mistress a ride". "Well there's something to drink". Mistress gave my bottom a firm hit with the crop and I began to lap up my own mess. I felt Mistresses boot on the back of my neck. "You're going nowhere until it's all disappeared".
I lapped away still exhausted yet proud to have carried my Mistress for so long.
Pain and pleasure. I wouldn't want it any other way!
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Saturday, February 23, 2013
tips/what to avoid for fledgling findommes
One of the things i get asked most often by newer dommes is "how much time do i waste with a sub before i get tributed?" the answer is simple it's however much time your willing to waste on that person, there is no guarantee of tribute just cause a sub has financial fetish listed or has something like atm in his name so in this blog i'm going to go over some of my personal dos and don'ts of findomme for newbies.
1. Don't expect a living off of it it's not regular and it can be detrimental to yourself to expect it to be in other words if it's something you need that you can't live without don't rely on a sub to get it get it for yourself and if a sub comes along and tributes it thats great if not your not disappointed because you can handle yourself.
2. Don't have subs buy you things of sentimental value unless you want that item forever associated with that sub. subs are fleeting creatures while there is loyalty among some most bounce around a bit if it's something you wanna love forever don't let a sub tarnish the sentimental value.
3. Learn your own personal limits of what your willing to do to domme etc. i have met quite a few dommes early on who pushed their own limits and regretted it if it's a fetish your not comfortable with don't offer it no matter the amount of tribute it still wont pay back feeling guilty or like you've disrespected yourself.
4. Don't whine if your having a hard time or try to play pity party it's classless and really just kinda blech subs pick up on desperation and it's not a attractive qaulity on any woman let alone one thats supposed to be in control.
5. Pictures while you don't need to be naked or anything like that pictures whether it's a body shot in t shirt and jeans a nice beauty shot of your face or some nice pics of your feet/hands men are visual creatures sometimes just having a variety of flattering pictures can get a sub looking at your profile and then more enticed to read you thoughts and speak to you.
6. Honesty while having a honest sub is of the utmost importance to most dommes honesty is a two way street if your married and a sub asks don't lie it might come back to bite you in the ass, and while we're discussing lies don't lie about your experience level if your new to findom wear your newness with pride.
7. Don't let the fakes and time wasters get you down yes theres a lot of them out there they tend to piss off/annoy most people because they make a joke of our fetish but bitching about it makes you seem like a dog with a bone. By all means if you think other ladies are going to get scammed make sure the sub gets a deserved reputation but try not to be too personally offended when the fuck with you cause their just walking boners minus a brain.
8. Typically if they have ATM Money Tribute or anything like that in their name especially on sites like collarme their big ole fake asses. Their are exceptions i'm not saying ALL who do this are i'm just saying that if they have it in their name proceed with caution.
9. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, subs have their preferences just like any person. Some will call you fat some will call you skinny some will say your too tatooed some will say your not tattooed enough so on a so forth while that can be hurtful and their assholes for judging rudely (some will even say your too blank to domme me) remember your confidence and remember your beautiful just the way you are no matter if your skinny as a rail or wide as a house covered in ink or virginal skin black white purple pink whatever you are you for a reason that alone makes you beautiful.
10. Don't spread yourself too thin, i've seen a lot of newer dommes get frustrated by having all these subs wanting constant attention be clear how much attention you intend to give and don't take on more than you can handle it'll keep your stress level at least some what reasonable
11. If your having a hard time getting subs take more time to learn and don't get frustrated because sometimes tributes can be harder to come by.
12. Holidays suck for tributes especially christmas etc because their worrying about their families and friends and less likely to have extra spoiling money around that time of year.
13. Don't let them get away with more than your comfortable with. I personally have a rule about honesty if a sub lies to me they get dismissed they can sit there and tribute me still if they like but they are refused ownership.
14. Don't try to turn a whore into a housewife. What do i mean by that you might be wondering? well it's simple some subs are community whores which means loyalty isn't their forte they want a variety of dommes and will figure out a way to get them end of story don't try to own a sub thats a community whore all you'll get is a cheater.
15. Risk involved, as with anything that is sexually appealing such as modeling or being a domme there is a risk of stalkers so try to keep your real name hidden protect yourself because you don't know who is really on the other end of the computer and it can be relatively easy to find out personal info about you if you don't watch your butt.
16. Lasting effect, someone once told me the internet and what goes on it is forever so unless your okay with what you post and do being found maybe the it might be time to rethink your online activities, if you arent okay with things coming back to bite you in the ass.
17. Sisterhood, too many times new dommes think that it's a competition with fellow dommes it's not if we stick together and be happy for one another it's much harder for snakes to slip in our midst if we all have open communication then we know when a sub we're unfamiliar with is a fake or not etc we can help one another.
18. Don't take what isn't yours if a sub has ownership in his profile his status or has been claimed as such don't go screwing with that you wouldn't walk up and steal another womans jewelery why would you steal her property in any other sense?
19. Faked or resent tributes, don't let unfamiliar subs tribute by buying off your wishlist it can be faked and it can be used to screw you out of a tribute until you know a sub well gift cards are best because once a code is redeemed it cannot be resent for that reason claim your codes as soon as you get them. Another thing is paypal it's easy to dispute the money there and it's not adult industry friendly so only let trusted subs paypal you so you don't get left holding the bag or worse having your account frozen and losing all your funds.
20. If your overwhelmed take a break don't be ashamed sometimes life stress etc all can get in the way if you need to step away it doesn't make you a bad domme or a bad person it makes you a human being who needs a break. Do what is best for you the lifestyle will be here when you come back.
21. Rome wasn't built in a day don't expect to be a rockstar overnight you have to build a reputation and learn your own style you may see dommes flooded with subs well don't feel bad if that isn't you right away because things can take time.
22. Don't let a sub buy you, some subs think they can get whatever they want for a certain amount that shouldn't be the case if it's something your uncomfortable with or don't provide then don't do it for any amount. For instance i only do cam or TV sessions when i feel like it sometimes a sub will contact me and i'll be in the mood to do those things so i do other times i'm just not feeling it and tell them maybe later.
23. It's okay not to be ON all the time, sometimes you want to be a person if a sub doesn't allow that then he's probably not a very good sub we may be dommes but we're also human and while we're always the one who is superior in the dynamic we still have feelings etc it's okay to have a sad day or show emotion.
24. It's okay to get busy with your real life where your not online every second of the day, most of us work or have family or other outside obligations and cannot spend every waking moment domming some do but it doesn't mean you have to it means you need to find your own balance.
these are just some tips i have for newbies feel free to add your own. hopefully you'll find them helpful. this has also been edited to add suggestions from other ladies who have thoughtful and helpful ideas that are also good tips and suggestions.
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1. Don't expect a living off of it it's not regular and it can be detrimental to yourself to expect it to be in other words if it's something you need that you can't live without don't rely on a sub to get it get it for yourself and if a sub comes along and tributes it thats great if not your not disappointed because you can handle yourself.
2. Don't have subs buy you things of sentimental value unless you want that item forever associated with that sub. subs are fleeting creatures while there is loyalty among some most bounce around a bit if it's something you wanna love forever don't let a sub tarnish the sentimental value.
3. Learn your own personal limits of what your willing to do to domme etc. i have met quite a few dommes early on who pushed their own limits and regretted it if it's a fetish your not comfortable with don't offer it no matter the amount of tribute it still wont pay back feeling guilty or like you've disrespected yourself.
4. Don't whine if your having a hard time or try to play pity party it's classless and really just kinda blech subs pick up on desperation and it's not a attractive qaulity on any woman let alone one thats supposed to be in control.
5. Pictures while you don't need to be naked or anything like that pictures whether it's a body shot in t shirt and jeans a nice beauty shot of your face or some nice pics of your feet/hands men are visual creatures sometimes just having a variety of flattering pictures can get a sub looking at your profile and then more enticed to read you thoughts and speak to you.
6. Honesty while having a honest sub is of the utmost importance to most dommes honesty is a two way street if your married and a sub asks don't lie it might come back to bite you in the ass, and while we're discussing lies don't lie about your experience level if your new to findom wear your newness with pride.
7. Don't let the fakes and time wasters get you down yes theres a lot of them out there they tend to piss off/annoy most people because they make a joke of our fetish but bitching about it makes you seem like a dog with a bone. By all means if you think other ladies are going to get scammed make sure the sub gets a deserved reputation but try not to be too personally offended when the fuck with you cause their just walking boners minus a brain.
8. Typically if they have ATM Money Tribute or anything like that in their name especially on sites like collarme their big ole fake asses. Their are exceptions i'm not saying ALL who do this are i'm just saying that if they have it in their name proceed with caution.
9. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, subs have their preferences just like any person. Some will call you fat some will call you skinny some will say your too tatooed some will say your not tattooed enough so on a so forth while that can be hurtful and their assholes for judging rudely (some will even say your too blank to domme me) remember your confidence and remember your beautiful just the way you are no matter if your skinny as a rail or wide as a house covered in ink or virginal skin black white purple pink whatever you are you for a reason that alone makes you beautiful.
10. Don't spread yourself too thin, i've seen a lot of newer dommes get frustrated by having all these subs wanting constant attention be clear how much attention you intend to give and don't take on more than you can handle it'll keep your stress level at least some what reasonable
11. If your having a hard time getting subs take more time to learn and don't get frustrated because sometimes tributes can be harder to come by.
12. Holidays suck for tributes especially christmas etc because their worrying about their families and friends and less likely to have extra spoiling money around that time of year.
13. Don't let them get away with more than your comfortable with. I personally have a rule about honesty if a sub lies to me they get dismissed they can sit there and tribute me still if they like but they are refused ownership.
14. Don't try to turn a whore into a housewife. What do i mean by that you might be wondering? well it's simple some subs are community whores which means loyalty isn't their forte they want a variety of dommes and will figure out a way to get them end of story don't try to own a sub thats a community whore all you'll get is a cheater.
15. Risk involved, as with anything that is sexually appealing such as modeling or being a domme there is a risk of stalkers so try to keep your real name hidden protect yourself because you don't know who is really on the other end of the computer and it can be relatively easy to find out personal info about you if you don't watch your butt.
16. Lasting effect, someone once told me the internet and what goes on it is forever so unless your okay with what you post and do being found maybe the it might be time to rethink your online activities, if you arent okay with things coming back to bite you in the ass.
17. Sisterhood, too many times new dommes think that it's a competition with fellow dommes it's not if we stick together and be happy for one another it's much harder for snakes to slip in our midst if we all have open communication then we know when a sub we're unfamiliar with is a fake or not etc we can help one another.
18. Don't take what isn't yours if a sub has ownership in his profile his status or has been claimed as such don't go screwing with that you wouldn't walk up and steal another womans jewelery why would you steal her property in any other sense?
19. Faked or resent tributes, don't let unfamiliar subs tribute by buying off your wishlist it can be faked and it can be used to screw you out of a tribute until you know a sub well gift cards are best because once a code is redeemed it cannot be resent for that reason claim your codes as soon as you get them. Another thing is paypal it's easy to dispute the money there and it's not adult industry friendly so only let trusted subs paypal you so you don't get left holding the bag or worse having your account frozen and losing all your funds.
20. If your overwhelmed take a break don't be ashamed sometimes life stress etc all can get in the way if you need to step away it doesn't make you a bad domme or a bad person it makes you a human being who needs a break. Do what is best for you the lifestyle will be here when you come back.
21. Rome wasn't built in a day don't expect to be a rockstar overnight you have to build a reputation and learn your own style you may see dommes flooded with subs well don't feel bad if that isn't you right away because things can take time.
22. Don't let a sub buy you, some subs think they can get whatever they want for a certain amount that shouldn't be the case if it's something your uncomfortable with or don't provide then don't do it for any amount. For instance i only do cam or TV sessions when i feel like it sometimes a sub will contact me and i'll be in the mood to do those things so i do other times i'm just not feeling it and tell them maybe later.
23. It's okay not to be ON all the time, sometimes you want to be a person if a sub doesn't allow that then he's probably not a very good sub we may be dommes but we're also human and while we're always the one who is superior in the dynamic we still have feelings etc it's okay to have a sad day or show emotion.
24. It's okay to get busy with your real life where your not online every second of the day, most of us work or have family or other outside obligations and cannot spend every waking moment domming some do but it doesn't mean you have to it means you need to find your own balance.
these are just some tips i have for newbies feel free to add your own. hopefully you'll find them helpful. this has also been edited to add suggestions from other ladies who have thoughtful and helpful ideas that are also good tips and suggestions.
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Thursday, February 21, 2013
entitlement
This time i'm writing about the confusion subs often have about findommes. I've found subs who tribute often expect that they should get something and while i always try to give something back and do something positive about tributes, that doesn't mean it's owed to them and that entitled attitude is one of the number one things that makes me want to hurt them and not in a good way. I get on cam when i want to get on cam i'm cam verified on findoms and some financial fetish groups on fetlife as well as having a profile video one collarme, so i'm obviously me if a sub can't prove himself than he's not worth my time as i have more than proven myself.
While i do nudity in modeling and such it doesn't mean i'll get naked with a sub, have i? yes i can honestly say i have and i have no shame on that fact because it was what i wanted when i wanted And also he didn't ask. Just like getting to play with me in real time is a privilege anything i choose to show is a privilege tributing does not automatically allow for you to have such a privilege. I'm not a cam girl and while i am a pro domme that is approached completely different than my financial fetish. I'm not saying theres anything wrong with cam girls phone sex operators etc i'm just saying theres a clear distinction to that and financial domination.
A respectful sub should come to a domme placing tribute at her feet without expectation, even better if they don't have to be told to tribute. granted know not all subs are going to be selfless in this sense but just don't expect that just because you buy a domme lingerie that she has to post pictures or buy her a vibrator means you get to see her use it or even know how the hell your money is being spent because it's about the fetish of handing over your hard earned cash to a wonderful dominant lady.
I get so tired of seeing subs feel an entitlement that just because they've got a few bucks they can get a domme to jump through hoops, well my response is to set your hoops on fire and make you my little bitch circus preformer and make you jump through your own hoops. I can be a very generous kind domme to those who earn my affections to those who expect it aren't worth kissing my ass.
I had a sub recently try to setup a play session on cam claimed he was rich blah blah blah but refused to tribute in the form i wanted him to which was a simple amazon gift card well once he refused i told him to take a hike, he told me he was coming to colorado in a few weeks and would give me hundreds of dollars if i gave him a second chance and met up with him my response was simple if he didn't respect my wishes online i highly doubted he would in person so i told him to shoo fly.
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While i do nudity in modeling and such it doesn't mean i'll get naked with a sub, have i? yes i can honestly say i have and i have no shame on that fact because it was what i wanted when i wanted And also he didn't ask. Just like getting to play with me in real time is a privilege anything i choose to show is a privilege tributing does not automatically allow for you to have such a privilege. I'm not a cam girl and while i am a pro domme that is approached completely different than my financial fetish. I'm not saying theres anything wrong with cam girls phone sex operators etc i'm just saying theres a clear distinction to that and financial domination.
A respectful sub should come to a domme placing tribute at her feet without expectation, even better if they don't have to be told to tribute. granted know not all subs are going to be selfless in this sense but just don't expect that just because you buy a domme lingerie that she has to post pictures or buy her a vibrator means you get to see her use it or even know how the hell your money is being spent because it's about the fetish of handing over your hard earned cash to a wonderful dominant lady.
I get so tired of seeing subs feel an entitlement that just because they've got a few bucks they can get a domme to jump through hoops, well my response is to set your hoops on fire and make you my little bitch circus preformer and make you jump through your own hoops. I can be a very generous kind domme to those who earn my affections to those who expect it aren't worth kissing my ass.
I had a sub recently try to setup a play session on cam claimed he was rich blah blah blah but refused to tribute in the form i wanted him to which was a simple amazon gift card well once he refused i told him to take a hike, he told me he was coming to colorado in a few weeks and would give me hundreds of dollars if i gave him a second chance and met up with him my response was simple if he didn't respect my wishes online i highly doubted he would in person so i told him to shoo fly.
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Needs VS Wants
This blog is about financial dommes and needing verses wanting which i think is a important distinction.
Growing up my mother taught me to be self reliant that if a needed something in my life i should be able to get it for myself because relying on others men in particular could be a dangerous game. This could've been because my mother was married 3 times once to a cheater once to a abuser and to my father finally, given that situation her first two husbands left her high and dry. In other words momma didn't raise no fool.
The important distinction here is that in a power exchange a domme is supposed to have her desires fulfilled to the the best of their subs ability. While subs and dommes are not equal once a dynamic has been established i think partially this is because the domme makes a point of not NEEDING but WANTING her sub. The dynamic becomes skewed if the domme has to have her sub to survive it kills the fantasy and often times if you ask the subs themselves the find dommes who need their subs to seem desperate. I personally don't want to be seen as a desperate woman. Also i find it more enriching for the relationship to make the sub feel wanted because then they know your not keeping them around because you have to but simply because you desire to have them there for their betterment and your amusement.
I've seen a lot of dommes begging like little puppy dogs for finsubs and not only does it reek of desperation but it also gives over all the power to the sub after all if they know you can't survive without them then their more likely to try to get away with more stuff such a disobedience topping from the bottom cheating etc because they know the likelihood of being dismissed is slim to none.
Now i'm not saying don't have a sub take on the privilege of paying your bills etc but always keep them aware that it is a privilege to do so because you can pay your own bills and them contributing to your bills is a special privilege that allows you to have extra money for doing other things. Arrogance in a submissive because they feel like they hold your life in their hands is not something i'd want in the slightest if it's something other dommes want then thats fine but i have my pride and i know i can handle and take care of myself.
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Growing up my mother taught me to be self reliant that if a needed something in my life i should be able to get it for myself because relying on others men in particular could be a dangerous game. This could've been because my mother was married 3 times once to a cheater once to a abuser and to my father finally, given that situation her first two husbands left her high and dry. In other words momma didn't raise no fool.
The important distinction here is that in a power exchange a domme is supposed to have her desires fulfilled to the the best of their subs ability. While subs and dommes are not equal once a dynamic has been established i think partially this is because the domme makes a point of not NEEDING but WANTING her sub. The dynamic becomes skewed if the domme has to have her sub to survive it kills the fantasy and often times if you ask the subs themselves the find dommes who need their subs to seem desperate. I personally don't want to be seen as a desperate woman. Also i find it more enriching for the relationship to make the sub feel wanted because then they know your not keeping them around because you have to but simply because you desire to have them there for their betterment and your amusement.
I've seen a lot of dommes begging like little puppy dogs for finsubs and not only does it reek of desperation but it also gives over all the power to the sub after all if they know you can't survive without them then their more likely to try to get away with more stuff such a disobedience topping from the bottom cheating etc because they know the likelihood of being dismissed is slim to none.
Now i'm not saying don't have a sub take on the privilege of paying your bills etc but always keep them aware that it is a privilege to do so because you can pay your own bills and them contributing to your bills is a special privilege that allows you to have extra money for doing other things. Arrogance in a submissive because they feel like they hold your life in their hands is not something i'd want in the slightest if it's something other dommes want then thats fine but i have my pride and i know i can handle and take care of myself.
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Friday, February 15, 2013
what submission means to me
I've beenthinking about real submission verses fetish boys so i figured i'd write my own about how i feel about the
matter that and i've been feeling very into writing lately. I don't
think i need to add that we're discussing financial subs here but i will
anyway. I think a fetish boy will tribute either to get attention
sessions pictures etc where as a real sub boy will tribute to sacrifice
for his domme he doesn't need to have rewards for his tributes though
they tend to appreciate them. They also tend to be more respectful in
the long run.
A prime example of a true submissive is my boy Collared he's never even so much as asked me what i spend his money on and whether one or both of us are busy or not i still wake up every monday morning to find my tribute from him which he does because he knows it makes me wake up with a smile on my face. When he won my birthday tribute contest he had won a custom photo from me and he came to me respectfully for his prize he didn't ask for a pussy piture or anything trashy like that he asked for a seductive photo of me in riding gear and he's the only one who's ever seen that photo and ever will because it was taken specifically for him as he was the winner.
A prime example of a fetish boy is a guy who used to serve me back when i was a beginner i'll call him sub X he claimed submission all over his CM profile messaged me begging to tribute me but when i allowed it he wanted to pick and choose what he bought me ignoring what i really wanted at the time, so i said fuck it might as well. Well X before long begged to be owned and for a bit he started acting a little better but after a few days he admitted he'd been running around tributing anyone with beautiful long hair (this was partially why i cut off all my hair cause it was my way of saying fuck you plus i was getting tired of long hair) at that time i asked him if he was really wanting to serve me or if he just liked me for the way i looked he admitted it was my looks and then i ditched his ass he still occasionally contacts me though hasn't for a while since i've been ever more firm with him.
the point is although every lady is beautiful in their own way i don't want a sub to want me just for my looks or my body parts i want a sub who wants to serve me because of my mind because of my intelligence and my way of domination if you find me beautiful thats fine and sweet but when you submit yourself to me your submitting to me not to a picture not to a fantasy to a real live woman who though rewards good behavior isn't obligated to do so and when you decide to push the issues it makes me less likely to want to reward you.
I do also sometimes wonder if the findom fetish attracts spending addicts but thats another matter entirely. I put up my wishlists because not all subs are brave and some worship from afar i've gotten the odd gift card here and there from secret admirers and since they didn't want me to know who they were i didn't go looking i'd make a post asking who sent it if they didn't come forth that just meant he didn't want me to know. i'm not desperate i live my life without need of tribute i don't need you or have to have you i want you a choose to have you in my life, wich also in turn means if you piss me off i probably wont want you in my life anymore serving a domme is a priviledge respect that priviledge by respecting the ladies you serve boys and if your a fetish boy or a slut boy say it up front it makes me less likely to want to hit you with a clue by four.
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A prime example of a true submissive is my boy Collared he's never even so much as asked me what i spend his money on and whether one or both of us are busy or not i still wake up every monday morning to find my tribute from him which he does because he knows it makes me wake up with a smile on my face. When he won my birthday tribute contest he had won a custom photo from me and he came to me respectfully for his prize he didn't ask for a pussy piture or anything trashy like that he asked for a seductive photo of me in riding gear and he's the only one who's ever seen that photo and ever will because it was taken specifically for him as he was the winner.
A prime example of a fetish boy is a guy who used to serve me back when i was a beginner i'll call him sub X he claimed submission all over his CM profile messaged me begging to tribute me but when i allowed it he wanted to pick and choose what he bought me ignoring what i really wanted at the time, so i said fuck it might as well. Well X before long begged to be owned and for a bit he started acting a little better but after a few days he admitted he'd been running around tributing anyone with beautiful long hair (this was partially why i cut off all my hair cause it was my way of saying fuck you plus i was getting tired of long hair) at that time i asked him if he was really wanting to serve me or if he just liked me for the way i looked he admitted it was my looks and then i ditched his ass he still occasionally contacts me though hasn't for a while since i've been ever more firm with him.
the point is although every lady is beautiful in their own way i don't want a sub to want me just for my looks or my body parts i want a sub who wants to serve me because of my mind because of my intelligence and my way of domination if you find me beautiful thats fine and sweet but when you submit yourself to me your submitting to me not to a picture not to a fantasy to a real live woman who though rewards good behavior isn't obligated to do so and when you decide to push the issues it makes me less likely to want to reward you.
I do also sometimes wonder if the findom fetish attracts spending addicts but thats another matter entirely. I put up my wishlists because not all subs are brave and some worship from afar i've gotten the odd gift card here and there from secret admirers and since they didn't want me to know who they were i didn't go looking i'd make a post asking who sent it if they didn't come forth that just meant he didn't want me to know. i'm not desperate i live my life without need of tribute i don't need you or have to have you i want you a choose to have you in my life, wich also in turn means if you piss me off i probably wont want you in my life anymore serving a domme is a priviledge respect that priviledge by respecting the ladies you serve boys and if your a fetish boy or a slut boy say it up front it makes me less likely to want to hit you with a clue by four.
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broken honesty
Okay so this is more a question for boys but all ladies are welcome to and its also just my opinion on the situation.
As findommes we all know how hard it can be to find loyal long lasting subs, there are so many different styles and types of dommes from looks age domination ethnicity etc which is great I love that we're such a diverse group but at the same time subs often have domme ADD.
With that being said why ask to be owned of your only looking to play around? It doesn't make sense to promise honesty and loyalty only to be caught with your pants down so to speak. One of the main things I ask subs who want to serve me its even in my application is if they are capable of honesty and loyalty I don't lie I don't believe in lying, but seems when I ask if they want to be a community whore or loyal they rarely answer whore (to the ones who are honest kudos you make me less likely to wanna stab you in the face with a spork).
But of your just going to lose your domme in the end anyway from being caught etc.why not just be upfront and honest? I suppose it doesn't make sense to me that if you wanna play the field that badly why not announce it because hiding ownership or making profiles elsewhere to do so only seems idiotic to me if you wanna slut it up wave your slut flag proudly your more likely to piss me off by lying than by serving more than just me openly.
My mother theorized that they want commitment without loyalty so they pretend to be committed while sneaking about. Luckily for me most ladies have been out and honest if my sub tries to sneak at least here that's the case. It does make me wonder if they don't reconcile their dishonesty with seeing multiple dommes with the fact that we have multiple subs but the difference there is honesty I don't lie about my relationships.
so thanks for letting me rant I'm just genuinely wondering why the logic behind this works.
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As findommes we all know how hard it can be to find loyal long lasting subs, there are so many different styles and types of dommes from looks age domination ethnicity etc which is great I love that we're such a diverse group but at the same time subs often have domme ADD.
With that being said why ask to be owned of your only looking to play around? It doesn't make sense to promise honesty and loyalty only to be caught with your pants down so to speak. One of the main things I ask subs who want to serve me its even in my application is if they are capable of honesty and loyalty I don't lie I don't believe in lying, but seems when I ask if they want to be a community whore or loyal they rarely answer whore (to the ones who are honest kudos you make me less likely to wanna stab you in the face with a spork).
But of your just going to lose your domme in the end anyway from being caught etc.why not just be upfront and honest? I suppose it doesn't make sense to me that if you wanna play the field that badly why not announce it because hiding ownership or making profiles elsewhere to do so only seems idiotic to me if you wanna slut it up wave your slut flag proudly your more likely to piss me off by lying than by serving more than just me openly.
My mother theorized that they want commitment without loyalty so they pretend to be committed while sneaking about. Luckily for me most ladies have been out and honest if my sub tries to sneak at least here that's the case. It does make me wonder if they don't reconcile their dishonesty with seeing multiple dommes with the fact that we have multiple subs but the difference there is honesty I don't lie about my relationships.
so thanks for letting me rant I'm just genuinely wondering why the logic behind this works.
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snuff penectomy erotica
Their relationship had started of just the same as any other D/s
relationship. He had tributed her rather sporadically but they had
started off as friends she had trusted and cared for him told him simply
follow honesty obedience and loyalty and they would never have any
problems but over tinge she was uncovering more about his.lying ways.
Not to mention one day he'd say he lived to be mine fucked then the next
would tell her it was a limit of his. Then over time he'd tribute then
get mad, fur her to never soak to him again among other things . Then
after amassing a debt of 400$ and constantly stalking her she called him
to try to put a end one way or another. The call consisted of
him.proving he knew.nothing of her her domme style or her as a person
and whenever be was verbally backed into a corner he'd twist his words
to suit him.finally she gave up on.him.and hung.up the phone.After
crying a bit she came.up.with a vengeance plan contacted a doctor friend
of hers devised a plan fire vengeance if she had simply wanted him
dead it would've been.simple she was a good marksman and could just put
him.down she wanted him to be the joke she saw him.as on.the outside as
much as he was in the inside the money owed meant nothing vengeance was
her sweet release.He woke.up not remembering during with two figures
over him he was groggy and restrained his heart a trip hammer in his
chest as he realized he was stripped from the waist down. "is there
anyway we can do this without aesthetic I'd really like him.to feel as
much as he's put me through"the smaller figure asked the taller of the
two "its possible just might wanna gag him from the screams, were you
wanting to do the two part penectomy or the four?" He asked the smaller
figure "four he does owe me four after all and I'm.taking my payment"
she said with a bit of a giggle "now sir you will no.longer be able to
get a erection And you'll have to use a catheter to urinate from.this
point further" the patient couldn't respond however as he was already
ball gagged.She watched enraptured as the first incisions were made
cleaning up the excess blood as his cock was now split in two she was in
charge of carterizing the bleeders as well as cleaning blood before
long then made the second cut splitting his cock once more into fourths
the pieces if flesh looked more like shredded hot dog than cock and
their patient had passed out from shock.They cleaned .up put a catheter
in removed him.from the warehouse sticking him back at his home with an
printed care instructions and printed in a Separate piece of paper said
quite simply don't.bother trying to.get.it fixed.he did.it.I'm.a way
which was irreparable this was his life now.Mean while while he was
waking in his home to his horror the doctor and his v lovely nurse Abe
cleaned their mess and was now fucking in a chair wildly like a couple
animals afterwards as she put her clothes back on."I'm my.only secret"
she said putting a bullet between his eyes close range with a written
confession nearby in the doctors hand. She never got caught his life was
changed forever.
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for the love of bdsm
I have been in the BDSM lifestyle since i was 16 i started off as a submissive borderline slave and found that though i like rough sex dirty talk and masochism at my core i'm a dominant needless to say the relationship fizzled that started my interest in BDSM (that and he was a abusive butt hole) ever since i got into this lifestyle i've felt not that it was just something to amuse but part of who i was. I found my dominant side and found happiness in the play i participated in with others it wasn't until i was 18 that through fetish modeling one of my fellow models got me into financial domination saying that i'd probably enjoy it and she was right. Afterwards i couldn't get enough it was addictive those feelings of control power superiority matched with that deep connection you get from long term subs and slaves it was an amazing feeling.
I have seen subs come and go some missed dearly others good riddance to bad rubbish, i've had fetishes grow that i never expected would and fetishes i loved that no longer interest me i've grown as a person to where often times 18 year old me feels like a completely different person. in the end tribute or no tribute i will always be a domme i often catch myself domming my fiancee in day to day life without realizing it until he points it out which he finds funny.
I find sometimes humility in dominants can be hard to find not saying all are that way but quite a few are, i often feel like i'm a different kind of domme because in my day to day i'm fairly meek and quiet typically only expressing myself through what i wear my hair color etc until i meet certain people then a special part of me that i keep hidden from the world comes out and i feel a special kind of freedom. in the end for me it's more about being a part of who i am i love my fetishes i love subs who share my fetishes especially if their respectful. I hate it when boys try to top from the bottom it bugs my dominant sensibilities if your going to be pushy why not just be a male dominant i've never gotten the topping from the bottom logic personally then again male logic i think can often be lost on the feminine gender.
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I have seen subs come and go some missed dearly others good riddance to bad rubbish, i've had fetishes grow that i never expected would and fetishes i loved that no longer interest me i've grown as a person to where often times 18 year old me feels like a completely different person. in the end tribute or no tribute i will always be a domme i often catch myself domming my fiancee in day to day life without realizing it until he points it out which he finds funny.
I find sometimes humility in dominants can be hard to find not saying all are that way but quite a few are, i often feel like i'm a different kind of domme because in my day to day i'm fairly meek and quiet typically only expressing myself through what i wear my hair color etc until i meet certain people then a special part of me that i keep hidden from the world comes out and i feel a special kind of freedom. in the end for me it's more about being a part of who i am i love my fetishes i love subs who share my fetishes especially if their respectful. I hate it when boys try to top from the bottom it bugs my dominant sensibilities if your going to be pushy why not just be a male dominant i've never gotten the topping from the bottom logic personally then again male logic i think can often be lost on the feminine gender.
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